Being The Mom of a Child With Special Needs Is New to Me

by Carrie with Children with 13 comments

I’m still trying to get used to being labeled as a “mom of a child with special needs”. (Here’s our story.) I’d much rather just be known as a mom with two amazing girls – one just happens to have an extra chromosome. It always makes for a interesting conversation when a stranger approaches me to admire my cute babies.  They make me laugh, smile and sometimes even cry.

Last week, a woman in Chick-Fil-A approached me to admire Molly and all of her cuteness.(Can you blame her?) After asking me how old Molly was, she paused and said “I also have a daughter with Down Syndrome. She’s 32 and out of all four my children – she is the most independent. She has a job at the grocery store, she plays the piano and participates in piano recitals.”  You could tell this was a proud mom, she continued to tell me about her daughter’s successful life (so far) and how proud she was of her.  I instantly felt the tears welling up in my eyes and it wasn’t because I was sad. It was comforting and reassuring to hear a total stranger tell me in a roundabout way, that everything was going to be okay.

It’s always a little shocking when people stop me and share their connection with Down Syndrome. Don’t get me wrong, I love talking and hearing people’s stories, it’s just something I’m still trying to get used to. Each time it happens, my first internal thought is “How did they know?”  I think of myself as a friendly person and love talking to people, but when it’s something this personal – it’s an emotional moment for everyone involved.  I’m so happy that the lady in Chick-Fil-A approached me last week.  It is always very uplifting to know that there are others who have been in my shoes…and that my Molly is on the path to a bright, fulfilling life!   I couldn’t be more proud of her!


  • Jessica

    I am a firm believer that God sends angels to let us know everything will be ok. Sounds like yours showed up in Chick-Fil-A! Hugs.

  • Jackie

    She's a beautiful little girl and has an amazing family to love and support her! She's very lucky as are you!

  • angela

    How kind of that lady to share her story. I'm sure her daughter is successful because of a wonderful family and support system, just like Molly will be. She is gorgeous!

  • Anonymous

    That is a sweet story! It will be okay. I too have some of the most beautiful exchanges with perfect strangers. The conversations have a way at grabbing at your soul, don't they?

  • Nichol

    And it will be OK. I have a sister with down syndrome, she is 28 years old. She also is very independent, has a job, and loves hanging out with her friends. She is beautiful, and she will bring you so many more smiles throughout her life.

  • Amy

    I bet you that was Christina's mom, she works at our Publix, and she used to go to the prom at Palm Ave.

  • Hungrigyrl

    That is such a nice story! What a beautiful, sweet little girl you have, and she is lucky to have you as a Mom!

  • Sippy Cup Mom

    Your daughters have the best Mama ever! What a sweet story!

  • Don

    Well done, Mom.

  • Greta: From Transparencies of Motherhood

    Love Jessica's comment…and couldn't agree more. You're a wonderful mom!! Your strength is astounding.

  • Alida

    I have a friend who is mom to two kids with Downs… your post brought tears to my eyes. Thanks so much for sharing!

  • Eschelle

    I used to live below a family with a son with down syndrome. He is about my husbands age and has multiple one Gold, multiple silver and bronze medals from the special Olympics for weight lifting etc… This was a lovely post thank you for sharing with us.

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