Tell Me Your Tips: Preparing a Toddler for a New Baby!

by Carrie with Children with 12 comments

It’s an exciting day in our family –  we are welcoming a new nephew today!  Little Zachary makes his way into the world and I can’t wait to meet him! Although, I fear our meeting may be delayed, thanks to my pesky cough and stuffy nose. And while his parents (my husband’s brother and wife) are anxious to meet him, Zach’s big brother, three year old James is just as excited too!

My girls are twenty months apart and I remember it was pretty tough juggling a newborn and a toddler the first few months.  Maggie was very interested in “who” this new baby was joining her family.  She was anxious to “help”.  And while she was still a little too young to really understand what was going on, she definitely knew things were different.

Here are a few things that we did to help ease the transition of a new baby in the house.

  • We gave Maggie her own “baby”.  She loved (and still does) taking care of her baby doll.  We role played with Maggie leading up to the time of Molly’s arrival.  Diaper changes, naps, bottle feeding – this little baby doll was great practice!
  • We included Maggie in everything we did for baby Molly.  Even though, she covered her ears from the baby’s crying – she loved watching Molly during bath time.   I also used a changing pad on the floor for diaper changes so that Maggie could be right in the middle of the action.  Keeping things at her eye level helped her feel included.

  • Praise, praise and more praise! Make sure your toddler knows they are being a great sibling!  While a lot of the attention may be directed at your newborn, it’s important to make your other kids feel special too!  A special treat or some one-on-one time with Daddy worked for us!

What tips do you have for moms introducing a new baby to a toddler?! What worked (or didn’t) work for you?  How did your child react to a new baby?


  • Tina @ Faith Fitness Fun

    I think those are the best tips! We really try to apply them with adjusting to newborn baby B and my little M. I would also say do your best to keep the toddler’s routine as normal as possible. It helps them not feel like their entire world is rocked too much.

  • Ashley @ Mama of All Trades

    When we brought Bubba home, we made sure that Bunny’s routine was not changed at all. We kept things as consistent as possible (once family left) to try and keep her world from totally changing.

    • Carrie with Children

      Great tip! I agree – keep their routine the same and everything will be fine!

  • Gina

    My son will be 2.5 when the new baby arrives – I’m excited and scared at the same time! We’ve been talking about the baby, telling him things he can do with the baby, etc. He seems to be excited, but who knows for sure!

    • Carrie with Children

      I’m sure he’ll be excited and be a great big brother! Just include him in everything when the new baby gets there and make him feel special and he’ll do just fine!

  • Melissa

    These are great tips and I will have to remember them when Baby #2 comes! 😉

    • Carrie with Children

      Baby #2?! Oh I can’t wait for that to happen! 🙂

  • Miranda

    Now, i am not at this point yet {;)} but I would say to make sure that I spend at least some one on one time with the older child. They need affirmation that they are still special and not forgotten after the new baby comes. You have a great list already; I’ll be sure to check back when the time comes :P.

  • Cam Bibs&Baubles

    I’ll have to keep all of this in mind when we decide we’re ready for baby #2. Thanks!